Friends. How many of us have them???
So yesterday I drove down to the city for my girl K's birthday. We went to see what I think is perhaps one of the funniest movies I've ever seen: Over the Hedge. Yes the kiddie movie. It was absolutely hilarious!!! Imagine three grown ass negroes in the movie theatre, falling out all over each other! Can't wait for Cars to come out June 9th! Afterwards, the gang met up for cake, ice cream, drinks, Madden, the Phoenix/Dallas game, and of course, Idol (Congrats to Taylor Hicks and the Soul Patrol).
Today, one of my friends in our circle called me and K to talk about this girl that was on the radio. She has this extremely close circle of friends that she shares everything with. She told something to one of the friends, who in turn, told the rest of the group. The girl got mad at the person because apparently she didn't want the group to know. My friends and I thought that the girl was being overly dramatic and a whiner. WE felt that she was mad because she didn't get to tell her friends before the other friend did and that if she didn't want her circle to know, she should've kept it to herself.
The three of us have been friends for half of our lives (Freshman year of High School, 1993), and we tell each other everything; there aren't any secrets in our circle. We share things collectively and are all privy to the same information. We laugh at the fact that if we tell one person something, then it become common knowledge so then our circle knows before we can tell the rest. And it doesn't matter to us where the news came from. We were going to tell each other anyway! If we told one person something before the other, that usually means the person we told simply answered their phone first, lol
So my question is, "Are there certain rules of secrecy and friendship that apparently my friends and I know nothing about?" Don't get me wrong. I do have friends that I don't reveal personal stuff too (We're cool, just not THAT cool). But my circle is MY circle of trust and I trust these guys with my biggest fears, concerns, just everything, and the feeling is mutual. (SAU baby!!!) If I want to talk about Mr. Smith or sex or something personal, these are the ones that I talk to above anyone else, and vice versa, so why be mad. We think, cross that, we KNOW that friends are gonna talk. Period. That's just what they do.
Today, one of my friends in our circle called me and K to talk about this girl that was on the radio. She has this extremely close circle of friends that she shares everything with. She told something to one of the friends, who in turn, told the rest of the group. The girl got mad at the person because apparently she didn't want the group to know. My friends and I thought that the girl was being overly dramatic and a whiner. WE felt that she was mad because she didn't get to tell her friends before the other friend did and that if she didn't want her circle to know, she should've kept it to herself.
The three of us have been friends for half of our lives (Freshman year of High School, 1993), and we tell each other everything; there aren't any secrets in our circle. We share things collectively and are all privy to the same information. We laugh at the fact that if we tell one person something, then it become common knowledge so then our circle knows before we can tell the rest. And it doesn't matter to us where the news came from. We were going to tell each other anyway! If we told one person something before the other, that usually means the person we told simply answered their phone first, lol
So my question is, "Are there certain rules of secrecy and friendship that apparently my friends and I know nothing about?" Don't get me wrong. I do have friends that I don't reveal personal stuff too (We're cool, just not THAT cool). But my circle is MY circle of trust and I trust these guys with my biggest fears, concerns, just everything, and the feeling is mutual. (SAU baby!!!) If I want to talk about Mr. Smith or sex or something personal, these are the ones that I talk to above anyone else, and vice versa, so why be mad. We think, cross that, we KNOW that friends are gonna talk. Period. That's just what they do.
posted by Capricorn_HNIC at 11:04 PM
2 Comments:
Everything isn't meant for all ears even with the best of friends. We all keep something for ourselves or share something with one friend that we just don't want to share with another friend.
That's a great story. Waiting for more. » »
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