Call me Dr. Phil
So I have been texting all day today! Thank God for unlimited text messages. One of my boys and his girlfriend got into a physical altercation yesterday. No, it wasn't him, it was HER! Yep, ol' girl straight punched my boy in the face as if he were a dude or something, breaking his glasses. So, he told her that she had to leave his apartment NOW with all her stuff. Then the apologies and tears came-a-flowin.
He called me to vent about it yesterday and throughout the night. Not only did she hit him, she accused him of cheating, which sooo isn't the case. He eventually let her come back "for the night" because it was late and he would have felt bad if something happened to her. I told him that that was mighty big of him.
Well today, I found myself counseling him and her at the same time, via text message. She pleaded her case to me while he was asking me if he should give her a second chance. I asked him what did his gut tell him because he shouldn't have to be in an abusive relationship. When you have to hit the one you "love", it's time to move on. I made her realize the seriousness of the offense that she has committed: She just hit her man in the face as if she were a man. That's worst than cheating and a huge blow to his manhood!
He then took the mindset of using her like all of her other no-good ex-boyfriends in an effort to teach her a lesson, which I talked him out of. I told him how he shouldn't carry a spiteful heart and if he did, it's best they stay apart. I explained to her that if she wants him back, some grand gesture will have to be done on her behalf. I told her that it needs to be genuine, from the heart, and out of the blue. Actions speak louder than words and if she loved him like she says she does, then she shouldn't have any problems.
I told her to pray for forgiveness, self-control, and for her relationship. I also told her to be patient because my boy won't come around so soon. I told him to pray for guidance, a forgiving heart, and to rid himself of all the anger. She thanked me for being a good friend to the both of them and she promised me she would make my friend happy. After 5 hours of couples therapy, I hope everything works out for them.
Next couple please!!!
He called me to vent about it yesterday and throughout the night. Not only did she hit him, she accused him of cheating, which sooo isn't the case. He eventually let her come back "for the night" because it was late and he would have felt bad if something happened to her. I told him that that was mighty big of him.
Well today, I found myself counseling him and her at the same time, via text message. She pleaded her case to me while he was asking me if he should give her a second chance. I asked him what did his gut tell him because he shouldn't have to be in an abusive relationship. When you have to hit the one you "love", it's time to move on. I made her realize the seriousness of the offense that she has committed: She just hit her man in the face as if she were a man. That's worst than cheating and a huge blow to his manhood!
He then took the mindset of using her like all of her other no-good ex-boyfriends in an effort to teach her a lesson, which I talked him out of. I told him how he shouldn't carry a spiteful heart and if he did, it's best they stay apart. I explained to her that if she wants him back, some grand gesture will have to be done on her behalf. I told her that it needs to be genuine, from the heart, and out of the blue. Actions speak louder than words and if she loved him like she says she does, then she shouldn't have any problems.
I told her to pray for forgiveness, self-control, and for her relationship. I also told her to be patient because my boy won't come around so soon. I told him to pray for guidance, a forgiving heart, and to rid himself of all the anger. She thanked me for being a good friend to the both of them and she promised me she would make my friend happy. After 5 hours of couples therapy, I hope everything works out for them.
Next couple please!!!
posted by Capricorn_HNIC at 1:05 AM
5 Comments:
Great advice! How much for an hour long session?
I know right. I'm thinking $75 an hour. I'm getting pretty good at offering advice.
That was some great advice...sounds better than what Dr. Shill might've offered.
You are such a good friend for that and it was great advice....I need a friend like you.
If she was so big in getting physical, then she should deserve to stay out the house!
I can't stand when females act up.
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